SOMETHING TO TELL THE PEOPLE OF EDMONTON?



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I need help I’m a single mother of 2 and in dire need of help, I’ve hit rock bottom emotionally my ex of 7 years and I split up January 2015 which was traumatizing for my kids and I, then in July 2016 my kids and I went threw another tramitizing event that was not in an way preventable.

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I’ve been an emotion wreck I have sever anxiety and depression and ptsd and I have been holding back my emotions and putting on a cold front for my kids as they don’t need to know anything is wrong but in the last month or so I’ve been so emotional and having melt down after melt down, I just don’t know what to do anymore.

ive isolated myself from everyone, I’ve seen a psychiatrist that I was referred to from my family doctor and I literally walked in the door she handed me a bag full of pills and said try these and come back in 3 months and that was the end of the session, I didn’t even talk to her and tell her how I was feeling or what I was going threw, nothing, but I never took them cause she didn’t even tell me what they were for or how that would affect me. I’m just at a loss on what to do I know I need help but I have already waited 6 months to see this lady that was useless I’m just trying to see if anyone has any advise on other steps I can take or what I could do.

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Please no bashing I’ve been threw enough and I don’t need the drama thanks


SOMETHING TO TELL THE PEOPLE OF EDMONTON?

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  1. Don’t make big changes all at once. Take small steps and work your way up from them. Remember, to your kids your the “grown up” and how you deal with life’s issues is how they will deal with life’s issues. Your their lifelong teacher.

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    1. When someone is going through a hard time. Hard times that seem nonstop, one thing after another. Forcing yourself to stop and take a breather makes a world a difference. Life is like running through a narrow tunnel, with several boulders rolling behind you. If you don’t take a break in a nearby alcove, fatigue from running will cause you to collapse letting the boulders run you over.

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    2. I think Leanne Davies means suggestions on where to go or who to see. The OP is reaching out! I’m certain she has been taking small steps for a while now so as not to upset her children.

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    3. I took small steps to mean focus on one thing at a time and not overwhelm yourself. Like writing ina journal at night is a small step. Trying to read a self help book in an afternoon, while writing a novel, and balancing a budget is too much to do at once and ends up overwhelming and making a person feel worse. Small step=you can’t fix everything that’s gone wrong over the years in an afternoon.

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  2. I get that maybe she didn’t tell you what the pills were for, but depression and anxiety medication are treated with the same types of medication. Maybe try taking the medication and see if it helps at all. I have severe anxiety and the medication has helped me so much. But if you just want someone to talk to my suggestion is going to a psychologist. And a psychiatrist is the one with medication and a psychologist is the one that talks(they both do, but a psychologist can’t prescribe medication so they try to help you work through your problems other ways)

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  3. Colouring is an awesome reliever. I have aniexty and also went through a verbal and mental abusive relationship for 8 yrs. It’s very hard but find something at least once or twice a week to “destress” I’ve done colouring, Zumba and now softball and it has helped alot 🙂

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    1. Chris Dumais Actually, there have been studies that documented success in decreasing anxiety without the use of medication for people who used colouring and journaling (not necessarily both). Have you not see all those adult colouring books with mandalas in the stores in the last couple of years?

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    2. Is there a church close to you that you can attend. They usally have people and pastor who will work with u also lots of workshops..while your kids go to classes and that will give you a break..time with adults..and they focus on other things. They have all sorts of we mom’s group’s. .seek that as an option

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    3. I’ve seen the books, I honestly just don’t understand it. I get the whole ‘taking your mind off of things’ concept, i just personally don’t understand how colouring helps? I feel like if I was colouring I would still just be stressing about my problems? Like I said, honestly not trying to be rude, I just don’t really get it.

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    4. Coloring helps my stress and anxiety but I can’t do it when my kids are around cause as cute as they are when they want to “help” and they scribble all over the page just stresses me out more hahahaha

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    5. I have always found coloring & drawing to help soooo much with anxiety. That’s why they make the drawings so complicated so that you have to focus on keeping the colors inside the lines. You focus on the drawing and getting it right instead of your anxiousness & stress.

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  4. TAKE THE MEDICATION THE PSYCHOLOGIST GAVE YOU!!! It will change your life. If you have a mood disorder you probably won’t get better without medication, no matter how much talk therapy you get.

    If you are confused about you medications, look them up on the Internet, talk to your GP or ask your Pharmacist.

    From experience, I cannot stress enough the importance of getting your medications set up. It may take years to get the dose right, so best to get started as soon as possible.

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    1. Coming from the person that won’t put her kids in school cause it’s to expensive when it’s technically free….. not surprising you give this advise your to pilled out to care about your kids I’ve been threw a lot and the last thing I want to do is sit around on pills I want to work out my issues not be high all the time and chances are this person wants to work out the issues if they are not wanting to take the pills to mask it

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    2. And ps – when your kids are school aged, you will learn the hard way that school is far from “free”!
      Cost is not the reason we don’t use the school system, but it is one of the reasons.

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    3. The reason why the psychiatrist probably prescribed the meds without talking to you is because they talked to your family doctor or read your medical files. They know what they are doing by prescribing you meds. And telling you to come back in three months to either say, “I’m doing well, thank you.” or “These aren’t working. Please help.” Do as the doctor said.

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    4. i totally disagree with this. ppl being prescribed meds should be monitored initially – even daily at first – to see how it affects them depending on how severe their situation is. they can react against it and not even realise it and simply think they are losing their minds – much better to do so in a safe controlled environment until the balance is right.

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    5. it can be done if you admit yourself to ER and volunteer to be admitted to the psych ward for evaluation – but it has to be essential for you. i believe 3 days is the minimum

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    6. drugs like cipralex can actually make anxiety, ptsd and depression worse for some and cause suicidal behaviour, hallucinations and a host of other side effects for some people. this should not be taken lightly, especially if you have never tested it before

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    7. And for your information Jennye I’ve been on medical ei since my daughter was born cause of all the complications and my oldest is going on her 3rd year of school and I can afford it just fine so don’t try and tell me it’s not affordable it’s called neglect

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    8. Jessica Schram, my educational choices for my family are none of your business, medical ei is not AISH, and your comments are irrelevant to this post.
      it’s irresponsible to go around calling everything you don’t understand about childraising ‘neglect’, if you have questions about homeschooling/unschooling there is plenty of information available, avail yourself of it and stop trying to derail this post.

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    9. Rhon I agree with you… mental health is simply not funded the way it needs to be. I’ve taken a friend to the ER on two separate occasions and after hours aand hours he was given phone numbers and released because there aren’t any beds for him to be admitted to.

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    10. Except everyone has a right to an education and by not providing that that’s neglect and ei and aish arnt all that different except aish gets more money….. so if I can make it work then you should to I would give up my internet to give my children education but apparently not you. And this isn’t irrelevant I’m making a point that if you can’t even make the right choice on giving your children an education then you really shouldn’t have a say in this matter

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    11. Lol, according to Jessica it is!
      What’s really sad here is that based on the grammar and spelling, Jessica Schram is in no position to judge the education of others! (And Natalie A Chesser – exactly! We don’t have a TV!)

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  5. It takes a long time to get in to see a psychiatrist. You should get a referral to see a psychologist as well because they can help you more on the emotional level what is really going on and work on your issues. Hospitals may have them on call. Mental Health in Alberta is available.

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  6. i’ve gone through similar n a few other life altering events in my life and i have never used any medications. i honestly push myself a lot i’m stronger for my kids and myself and do a lot of other things to distract myself. coloring, walks, pictures, crafts, baking, a lot of things with kids too. i also am single mom of 4. if you need to chat feel free to pm me.❤️

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  7. Try a new psychiatrist! Or even a psychologist some are free through Drs offices. Talk to someone! There are lots of psychologist that are pro non medication!! I had the same problem and even turned suicidal a few years ago and am now working towards getting off the medication and even going to try cannabis oil hopefully

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  8. For starters, find a better doctor if yours isn’t spending time discussing your issues and listening. A good GP can be your best supporter. Maybe consider a walk in at the U of A, getting another psychiatrist’s opinion might help. And definitely try the medications. It can take some trial and error to get it right, but if you tough through it, it can pay off. I know from experience. Also, you can buy CBT (cognitive behavioural therapy) workbooks at a bookstore. They are tailored to different issues. They are great for working through your problems. And check with the primary care network. They have classes and therapy groups that you can sign up for. And I know the Grey Nuns used to have group therapy on Thursdays, I think? Psychologists are expensive but maybe you could get a referral to YWCA. They offer sliding scale fees. Anyways, just some suggestions to get started. All these things helped me immensely. Best wishes and hope you find the help you need.

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  9. University of Alberta Hospital Psychiatric department has an intake at 0830 and 1230 I believe it is. First come first serve. Probably has any resource you could need for mental health.

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  10. Just the fact that your reaching out is a sign that you have the right mindset to find the solution. I help people through a combination of hypnotherapy and mind mastery..feel free to as any questions..might be something that can help you.

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  11. Do you have a friend you can open up to, someone to lean on? Not only to talk to but someone outside of all the stuff that’s going on inside your head.

    They can help you focus, keep on track, prioritize, maybe even do some research for you?

    Something to help take some of the burden off, while you are trying to get help.

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  12. If you haven’t gone through CASA, that might be the right way to go. No matter how much you try/tried to hide stuff from your kids they know. They are going to end up needing the help anyways, so why not go and get some help there? They have services for all family members.

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  13. I am familiar through work with a no-fee walk-in counselling place in Edmonton. It is staffed by fully qualified psychologists and clinical social worker volunteers. Please call for their hours: Support Network Walk-in at 400-10025 106 St NW 780.482-0198 Also, please remember that if you start feeling overwhelmed and need someone to talk to anytime (24/7 365 days a year), you can call Distress Line at 780.482-4357. It’s staffed by non-judgmental volunteers and the calls are private (no phone number display). They can also provide you with resources at the end of the call. Best of luck. I hope you see the light at the end of the tunnel soon. Hugs

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  14. Have you tried seeing a psychologist good ones don’t shove pills down your throat. They listen and might recommend something that will help, and help with getting yourself out of the depression you’re in and mostly someone to talk to. It honestly has helped me tremendously. In fact if it wasn’t for her I’d probably be in a psych ward somewhere.

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  15. I read on here previously where someone was looking for someone who could suggest a good psychologist, for PTSD and depression. This lady came highly recommended by many. Dr Aprile Flickinger here in Edmonton. It’s definitely worth a shot.

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  16. Honestly if you can afford it (which the average person probably can’t) go to a private psychologist. The free services though alberta health care have been horrible in my experience and if I had the money to go private I would

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  17. Being isolated and full of anxiety it’s hard to reach out so be proud of any steps you take, even if they seem small. Not sure if there is anything else you are in need of help with but 2-1-1 is a good place to start. Feel free to pm me, no judgement here.

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  18. Dear OP. I have been in that black pit of despair. Where I have been screaming inside. Where you have given everything and have nothing left. I hope knowing you are not alone and knowing it CAN get better will help. I give you hugs.
    I hear you when you say you don’t want to start out with drugs. You want to get to the root of the problem. Then if drugs are needed, OK.
    I googled counsellors. They sometimes have a pay scale depending on what you earn. Or your doctor can refer you.
    Just remember they are human and at times they might say something way off base. At other times they can say things which will trigger a light bulb moment. It will all help. Be honest.
    You will come.out OK, even though you probably doubt it right now.

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  19. Call 342 70000…..it will give you some one to talk to on the spot. ….it really is worth it. Please PM message me if you want…..I have a lot of experience with this and i can probably help you with answers to some questions privately….i also work at the U of A Hospital

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  20. Call the Edmonton Mental Health Clinic for a referral to a nurse and or psychiatrist. Also, call Catholic Social Services-they offer counseling from psychologists and the rate is based on your income (rate will be $0 for some people). Your local pharmacist can explain the medications in detail to you. Give the meds a try.

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  21. Get a dog. I highly believe they are awesome for therapy. I had taken our pup to my Dsughters class for Special Needs and it was amazing. The child that was so scared of dogs came outta his shell and loved our pup by end of visit. The children where just so happy when are were there. So great for the soul

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  22. A doctor will give you a prescription never a bag full of pills, some family doctors may have samples if the patient is unable to pay but they are in full packaging with instructions. maybe take those pills to a pharmacy to get them checked out?

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    1. ‘We Serve…

      People who have recently left or are currently in an abusive relationship
      Anyone affected by family violence
      People seeking information about family violence”

      Doesn’t say anything about only serving men.

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  23. What has worked for me…(doesn’t work for everyone) is taking the meds. When they work what a freakin difference! My issues suddenly didn’t seem so bad, I had clarity to think more logically. I only needed to talk about major stuff…. the stuff that seemed so big suddenly weren’t anymore. Looking back I think geeze what a mess I was.
    You also seen a psychiatrist rather than a psychologist…..try again don’t give up

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  24. Momentum Walk-in Counselling is free for those who can’t afford it, they’re a good place to start and not pill pushers. In January I was at the point where I was seriously considering checking myself into the hospital, but I used Momentum and another psychologist, and just did what I could to make some time for myself. EMDR is a treatment that is very effective with PTSD, but you’ll need a psychologist that specializes in it. I know of a couple if you want to PM me. It is very hard work though, when I did it I didn’t have kids and wasn’t able to work…but really any therapy is so make sure you get a support system together. Every day just try to make small changes towards getting back on track, and if you can’t one day, or even a few…it’s okay! Learning to be your friend and your own advocate is tough but you can do it. You’ve already taken a couple powerful steps! My son knows very well when mommy is having a bad day, when I break down for nothing, or sit in the bathroom crying sometimes…and it’s okay, they’re resilient, they know we do our best for them, and when we need help, in order to be there for them and ourselves we do! You’re going to get through the hardships…they’re temporary and will pass. Hang in there mama and PM me if you need to talk, vent, break down or brag!

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  25. If you see this. I have some. Insight for you that has helped me in many ways as I have been dealing with similar situations. Please lm me. I don’t judge, I’ve walked in your shoes I am still walking in them! Please message me!

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  26. Ask your Dr to refer you to PCN out of Northgate mall. Such good resources there. And once you’re in, you can see others in the clinic. They all work together and have helped me so much. I’m sorry you’re going through all this. I know how hard it can be…

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  27. I can’t compare myself to your situation, as I don’t know it well. I have had life changing events this year, and what has got me through it all is my friendships. Cutting yourself off will only make you feel more isolated. Please, let them help you talk through things. It will empower you to do so.
    If you don’t have friends like that, join a woman’s group (doctors, therapists, etc will be able to direct you, and most have childcare and it’s free).
    I am always open to talk, listen … anytime of day or night. You can pm me.
    I can’t promise miracles, but I can promise an ear to listen or a hot meal for you and the kids to come visit with.

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  28. A psychiatrist diagnosis’s you and prescribes medication. A psycholigist is a person you talk too and they give you tools to work through your problems. Find a psychologist or a counsellor. Wish you well!!

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  29. Do not see a psychiatrist unless you are diagnosed because they are the pill pushers and are not psychologists. Try to find a good therapist they both talk and listen and like a psychologist they do not prescribe any meds but may refer you to someone who does. Alberta Health Care can help. Good luck.

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  30. Find a family to babysit for a week or two. Go to E R and check yourself in voluntarily for psych assessment. You will enjoy the break, get the right help and you’ll walk out feeling like a million bucks with a game plan and ready to bring it on. Best wishes to you

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  31. As for (take the meds) screw that. Ppl react very differently and need observation. Some meds can actually put you right over the edge. You can experiment with that stuff while on your week or two vacation and get the right dose and type you need with professionals right there to help you

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    1. i dont give a crap if you like this comment or not. over 40 000 deaths already related to these meds elevating suicide in patients. until you know if youre the 1 in 5 who reacts this way, testing new drugs like these on anyone should be under strict observation. the fact it isnt is ridiculous of our medical system. they should not be dished out like candy and “seeya in 3 months”!

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    1. sometimes shit happens and it swallows us. we dont plan for it. then when it does, we have no way to deal with it especially if we never encountered it before. so yes – its a great resource to use

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    2. sometimes trying to find a shrink can takes months if not a year. thats no use if youve fallen into that black hole and need help now. if youre really feeling that bad, go to er. immediate shrink help

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  32. Wellbutrin worked wonders for me. I’m on a few things that have kept me from feeling suicidal for about a year now. It’s kind of odd to not feel that way anymore but it’s also kind of wonderful. I am also a single mother, but of three. Things are not easy. You’re welcome to message me if you need a friend, someone to vent to and such.

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  33. Go ser a psychologist instead of a psychiatrist , also go to a health vitiam store and try a product called sunshine in a bottle , its good for anxity and depression , it actually works

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  34. I had a similar experience. Contact City of Edmonton Community Services. They have short term counselling and may put you on the road to more help. Hang in there. Someday you will be looking back on this time and will be in a better place. Good luck Sweetie!

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  35. Don’t give up. A rainy day will turn to sunshine. You have beautiful kids and a lifetime of fun and memories ahead of you. Pull through this – and continue to seek professional help until you find one who can help you (your family).
    Depression is a lier – but a god one! Don’t believe it – in your mind you know it is not true everything depression whispers into your ear.
    People taking mood altering drugs need to me monitored by a professional. And we need to know what we are taking and why. A good friend of mine committed suicide that apparently was caused by the meds he was given for depression. After his doctor warned his wife the meds could cause suicidal thoughts.
    I am from a small town, and within a few years several people committed suicide ALL taking the SAME drug. And I am pretty sure this drug is still widely in use today.

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    1. I agree and I’m glad the poster isn’t just taking drugs to mask the issues and wants to find someone to talk to, to work threw the issues, drugs are not always the best option

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  36. Hun i used to be in your shoes. Its bloody hard expecially with kids. I seen. Shrinks and the works i found the drugs they were. Giving me. Were making me more deppressed and sucidal and more. One i woke up. It was so bad i couldnt even get out of bed for six months. Shut my ex and kids out of my life i knew then i hit rock bottom i threw all my pills in the garbage. Started smoking weed. And then my head started to clear up. And all those nasty thoughts slowly went away. . if u need help with your kids through this. There kid cottage and i can also help out. Sending healing energy xo

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    1. Well there are more than one psychiatrist/Dr. in the city. I don’t think a Dr would just throw you a bag of pills and not tell you what they’re for and not listen to your concerns and issues…

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  37. Lots ppl dont mean too let things build up to the point wher we ar so ovrwhelmed. Dont knw how to deal with nything ny more. Sometimes too much happens too fast nd its really hard back track. Figure out wher things started going wrong. Lots problems ar maskd with meds. We temporary feel better bt their problems ar still ther. Best suggestion i hve is journaling. Nd trying to map stress. Its emotional process bt if you dont do it. You might jst stay emotionally messd. Helps to jst knw. Writing things down givs you a sense of control ovr the problem. Knwing its on paper nd not in your head nymore. Then you can decide how. Nd when to deal with it. Sometines it can be as simple as jst watching it go away. Severing it. Like burning it. Other tines. It can be more work like decideing do i need soneone elses advice with this? Its really hard to heal or deal with things on your own. I cried same tears for years

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  38. Fuck the medication! Smoke a joint before bed! Marijuana does have medicinal properties that is used for your particular situation. Among other different medical ailments! Do NOT smoke in the presence of your children or at any point you know you have responsibilities to attend to. Smoke one before bed. After the kids are fast asleep. Not when you put them to bed. When they are for sure sleeping. Make some new friends that you can confide in and open up to. Open minded people. Non judgemental people. People who won’t condemn you for not being perfect. Don’t go to a bar or party or something to meet new people. Go to the library on the days you can bring the kids. Go swimming and meet people. Go to the park and have a fire and play some outdoor games and meet people. Places like that. Get to know other moms. Single or married. Just give yourself something different. Pharmaceuticals don’t create cures. They create customers. If you need to release some serotonin or dopamine in your brain, eat foods that naturally induce that release.

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  39. There is no way in hell you got handed a baggie of pills and got told to take these and see you in 3 months. I call BS. Any physcologist would lose their license to practice doing that. Obviously you need to speak out or at least write out what has happened to cause you to seek help so they can assess properly and guide your next steps in getting proper help. Hopefully you step up and do so if not for yourself then for your kiddos.

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