I know you mean well. I know telling me things like “well at least you have a good job and as nice house” is intended to make me feel better about my situation. I’m not angry about your attempts to cheer me up.
What I am – is heartbroken.
Yes I have a good job – with which I have bought a closet’s worth of baby stuff I may never get to use.
Yes I have a nice place – which rings with emptiness every single day when I come home.
Yes I have an amazing husband – and it breaks my heart every single that I may never get to tell him he’s going to be a father. Something he desperately wants.
I reminded every day that I am broken. That I can’t do the one thing a woman is supposed to do. Especially today (Father’s Day) is killing me. We turned off the TV and stayed off Facebook because we can’t stand to see all the commercials and posts about new babies. Mother’s Day is just as heartbreaking.
please – when you are talking to someone suffering infertility, please do not dismiss their pain. Even if you do not understand it, don’t dismiss. It is a very real pain. There is nothing like it.
Please just be supportive, and understanding. Being told “it could be worse” doesn’t fill the hole in my heart.